'You needed caliber to be his wife'

'I guess if I was chosen to be his wife, I must be special.'

Saira Banu began her career in 1961 opposite Shammi Kapoor in Junglee. She was only 17.

Six years later, her life changed completely when she married Dilip Kumar.

Since then, the role that she has enjoyed playing the most was that of Mrs Dilip Kumar although some of her biggest hits like Padosan, Gopi, Purab Aur Paschim and Jwar Bhata came after her marriage.

In 1977, she quit acting to devote herself to looking after her husband, a task she fulfilled with exceptional devotion for a good 50 years.

As she turns 77 on August 23, Subhash K Jha recalls an interview he had done with the actress, where she had said, "I knew many beautiful women wanted to marry Saab, but he chose me."

Sairaji, how do you evaluate your life so far?

I have been blessed to be a grand-daughter to one of the most accomplished classical vocalists (Shamshad Begum, not to be mistaken with the legendary playback singer Shamshad Begum) of her time, daughter to one of the most beautiful actresses ever (Naseem Banu), and wife to the greatest actor.

What more can I desire?

I've never seen a more fiercely devoted spouse than you.

For me, it was always Saab, no one else.

I was his fan from the time I can remember.

While still a teenager, I wanted to be his wife.

I am very headstrong and once I made up my mind, there was no stopping me.

Many heroines wanted to marry Dilipsaab. How did you get him?

I knew many beautiful women wanted to marry Saab, but he chose me.

It was my dream come true and that's what my marriage has been, a perfect dream.

Looking after Saab, his life and his home comes naturally to me.

You gave up a booming career to be Mrs Dilip Kumar.

Saab never asked me to give up my career.

In fact, he encouraged me to continue after marriage.

But after a while, my heart was not in my career.

I just wanted to take care of Saab.

Our marriage is the most important thing in my life.

Any regrets about not being a mother?

I don't miss having a child because Saab is like a child at heart.

Any regrets about giving up stardom?

I am not being a martyr when I say that I don't regret putting my career on the backburner.

I am grateful for every day that I get with the people I love.

Every touch and hug that I got from my grandmom and mom was therapeutic.

Of course, I go through my share of depression, especially that my grandmother, mother and brother are gone.

I am at my best within my family fold. Outside, I am withdrawn, aloof and reserved.

We stopped seeing you on screen long before we were willing to let you go.

I constantly needed my cuddles and hugs from my loved ones.

How could I sacrifice that to work under the harsh lights?

Dilipsaab is lucky to have you.

He could have married anyone, any woman he wanted. He chose me. I consider myself very fortunate.

I always call him the Kohinoor of the film industry.

I am lucky to be so close to him for so many years.

I couldn't have chosen a better life.

I can't imagine any other life for me.

I guess if I was chosen to be his wife, I must be special. Unki biwi hone ke liye caliber honi chahiye (to be his wife one needed to be of some caliber).

But seriously, all Indian wives look after their husbands.

In my family, I've seen women being devoted to their husbands. I grew up watching that.

Are there other prominent roles that you turned down?

As an actress, I always chose unusual projects while my colleagues opted for big banners. I always wanted to be comfortable with what I was doing.

When Rajkumar Kohli made Nagin, he tried to persuade me for six months to play the title role. I was never convinced I was right for it.

When I saw the film, I thought Reena Roy did a far better job than I could ever have.

Today, Devsaab (Dev Anand) and Vijay Anand would deny it completely, but Guide was offered to me twice.

It is a fact that Ted Danielsky (director of the English version) came to me with Guide.

At that time, I was supposed to start Mehboob Khan's Habba Khatoon. He required uninterrupted dates in Kashmir.

The leading man opposite me was none other than Dilip Kumar. How could I give up this opportunity?

But Habba Khatoon never got made.

When I look at Guide, I realise I could have never done what Waheedaji did.

For one, I was no dancer. (And) I would have looked a complete misfit as a married woman.

Looking back, what would you like to change in your life?

Except for the fact that God Almighty suddenly snatches away our loved ones, I have no regrets.

God took away my grandmother and mother and now, my brother.

But my grief is my own.

Life is to stay calm.

I throw tantrums only within my family fold.

I was taught it is bad manners to throw tantrums outside the family.