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How to woo your partner sexually
Sexual preferences are so varied that it's easy to go from being a 'sex God' to a 'sex fraud'? Youth Inc offers you a handy guide to sexual turn ons and turn offs.
What does the opposite sex want? While there can never be a definitive answer to that question, we can provide some insight on sexual likes and dislikes of the opposite sex.
Read on to see what will drive your partner crazy and what will just drive them away.
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How to woo your partner sexually
The turn ons
Going south
One of the biggest turn ons for both men and women is when their partners are willing (and eager) to explore their 'southern regions'. While the male preference for oral sex is well know, women are equally turned on by a 'generous' man.
How to woo your partner sexually
Striptease
Yes, men love saucy lingerie, sensual music and sultry moves. And oh, there must be heels involved. But remember, a good striptease is mainly about confidence.
If you're awkward or nervous about the idea, it's best to let it pass.
How to woo your partner sexually
Pat on the back
Male egos are monstrous, fragile beings that must be handled with great care. Make sure you appreciate their efforts during and after the act. Saying things like 'You make me feel so good' or 'That was amazing' will not only give your man pleasure but also make him want to perform better.
It's a win-win situation if there ever was one.
How to woo your partner sexually
I'm sexy and I love it
Bikini bodies are a pleasing visual for most men. But a greater turn on is someone who is confident about and comfortable with her body.
Even if you have extra curves, stubby legs or a backside that's too prominent, if you love it, you can certainly work it.
How to woo your partner sexually
Naughty women
Women who initiate sex by making the first move are a huge turn on for men. They like their partner's naughty side, especially if it is a rare sight.
Men also love costumes: hot nurse, sexy professor or cute waitress -- excite him with your new alter ego.
How to woo your partner sexually
Slow and steady
While it takes seconds for a man to be turned on, women take more than ten minutes to be completely aroused. Men should use this time to tease and excite the woman. Nibbling her ear, stroking the area around her navel and passionate kissing are some of the most effective forms of foreplay.
How to woo your partner sexually
The right touch
There are certain points in the human body that are especially sensitive to touch. These are called erogenous zones, and their stimulation can give your partner great pleasure.
For men, theses zones are the ears, temples, shoulders and lower backs.
In women, they are nape of the neck, inner thighs, back of their knees and feet. Let your hands wander.
How to woo your partner sexually
The turn offs
I'm fine, thank you
Unwillingness to experiment can be a turn off for both men and women. While you don't have to do anything you don't enjoy, being stuck in a 'sexual routine' can cause your partner to lose interest soon.
Change of location, new positions or other sexual experiments can be exciting for both sexes.
How to woo your partner sexually
No protection
Men who refuse to wear a condom or are careless about protection are a big turn off. Women especially like to be with men who are dependable and responsible, even in bed.
If you want to keep your lady happy, don't hesitate to tear the wrapper.
How to woo your partner sexually
Roll over and play dead
Listen up, boys! Lovemaking is an exhausting process but girls don't dig it when you roll away and snore peacefully just seconds later.
Post-sex behaviour is as important as the act, especially if you want a second chance, so stop snoring and start cuddling.
How to woo your partner sexually
Tell me how it was!
Too much post-sex interrogation can be a huge turn off. If you must find out, stop at 'Did you enjoy it?'. A detailed enquiry with questions like 'What was the best part?', 'Are you sure you liked it?', 'Is there something I should do differently?' will just ruin the mood.
It also shows your lack of confidence which can seem unattractive to your partner.
How to woo your partner sexually
No entry zones
While sex is about uninhibitedly exploring your partner's body, there are some no entry zones.
For example, some people dislike fingers wandering into their backsides. So before you make any bold moves, watch your partner's reaction.
If they look uncomfortable, it's time to stop.
How to woo your partner sexually
Grey areas
Fetishes
The world is reading about bondage and submission in 50 Shades of Grey but is it really a turn on?
Fetishes and sexual fantasies vary from person to person. While furry handcuffs and spanking sessions might work for some people, others could find it disrespectful and humiliating.
So before you scare your partner away by revealing a whip, take time to discover his/her preferences and find something that is pleasurable for both of you.
How to woo your partner sexually
Dirty talk
With dirty talk as well, it's best you test the waters before embarking on a verbal rant. There are also different levels of dirty talk -- from 'you're such a bad boy/girl' to things we can't mention in Youth Inc Magazine.
However, dirty talk is most exciting when it is occasional and unexpected. Too much and too harsh could be a dampener.