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10 things men should never ask women

Last updated on: October 4, 2010 12:46 IST
Asking for a kiss isn't in the rulebook!

Don't ask her why she didn't return your call or how many men she's slept with, among other things!

An author has come up with a list of 10 top dating tips to guide men on what they should never say to women.

David DeAngelo, author of Double Your Dating, says there is nothing worse than making mistakes that will later be regretted and one way to avoid them is to remember the following, Bullz-Eye.com reported.

First of all, a man should never ask a woman if he can kiss her, as she will only say, a man should never 'ask' for a kiss.

Asking her for a kiss will only make a man look like a boy, which is what a woman is not interested in, and even if she says yes, it could mean she is just being polite, while on the inside her attraction metre will read a firm 'no'.

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Don't ask her out on a date!

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Don't ask -- suggest a date

Second, a man should never ask a woman if he can take her out on a date sometime, as she would like to be with a man who is a leader and in control, not someone who asks her permission to hit on her.

A man should confidently ask a woman out, by simply saying, "We should hang out...what's your number?" or tell her about a specific place he wants to take her to.

Don't toot your own horn to impress her

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Don't try to make too much of your own success

A man should never brag about the car he has or the kind of house he lives in, as this seems like he is trying too hard to impress her.

Women are far more impressed by a man's material possessions if he does not mention them in conversation.

Have a plan in place

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Have a plan in place

The fourth thing a man should never ask a woman is what she wants to do for the night, as she likes a "man with a plan".

The man needs to have a game plan before he calls her, so as to ensure that she will not be burdened with having to think about what to do.

'Do you like me?' is a no-no!

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Don't come across as too needy!

A man should never ask a woman if she likes him, as this is one phrase that turns off a woman completely.

He should just assume that she likes him, and never ask the question, as it will look like he has no confidence.

Don't ask why she didn't get back to you

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'You didn't return my call'

The six tip is that a man should never ask a woman why she never answered his message, as:

1. It will show that he cared she did not reply back, and

2. It would give her a guilt trip, which is seen as insecurity by women.

Don't inquire about her magic number

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'How many men' will make you look insecure

The seventh tip is that a man should never ask a woman how many men she has slept with -- this shows that he is suffering from insecurity.

Play a little hard to get

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Women prefer men who are a bit of a challenge

A man should never hint at a future date with a woman he has just met, as she not only wants but needs a guy who is something of a 'challenge', and will lose interest if she senses she has won.

Don't be too predictable

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Don't be too predictable

A man should never end a phone conversation with a woman with a 'next step', as it would kill any spontaneity by being too predictable, and he would also kill any chances of her calling him.

Don't bad-mouth her male pals

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Don't ever criticise a woman's guy friends if you don't know them well enough

The tenth and final tip is that a man should never talk badly about a woman's guy friends, especially if he hasn't met them and doesn't know her very well, as this is the fastest way for her to mark him as 'insecure'.

Source: ANI