"Because you love her doesn't mean she has to reciprocate."
"Give it time, give it a change of scenery, give it other things to focus on, and after the initial difficulty you will be amazed at how easy it is to actually forget and move on..
In a weekly chat with readers every Thursday, Rediff's Love Guru addresses their relationship problems and offers solutions.
For those who missed the chat on February 19, 2015, here's the transcript!
Devika: hi LG, I loved a christ malayali boy am a hindu tamil gal I said ok only after 4 years within 2 months I found he wont marry me.
I met him and deleted all msgs and slapped and said don't repeat I found you within msgs itself etc.
Now I was upset and feeling guilty that I lost my first love. Unwantedly I spoiled my name.
What should I do now?
Love Guru : Devika, so you slapped him, insulted him etc but now you are feeling guilty? I suggest you stick to your resolve and move on.
V Gupta: I want to know what can be done now.
What can be the matter?
Recently again I asked the girl about his boy friend who called after the boy friend again called.
I asked if he knows him and he is in relation with him for 5 years or not.
She said she knows him and she is in relation. She also said nor to come to her any more. What can be the matter. Please advice
Love Guru: V Gupta, seems like a complicated affair, why do you want to get involved in it? If I were you, I will give the whole thing a wide berth
Raja Insane: I love my neighbour and her husband loves my cousin , we all are married but love a lot our would be partners and I wish to take my neighbour on a vacation to Europe.
How to take her along for she wants to come too but afraid to ask her husband.
Love Guru: Raja-Insane, since the whole lot of you seem so broad-minded, I am surprised that you'll have not so far roped in her husband into the fun and games, whatever stopped you?
Perhaps your trip plans stand a better chance to succeed if you include him, too?
After all, why should the poor fellow miss out on all the fun!
AMAR DESHMUKH: I am 42. In love with a lady. we have coffee with each other. But next time she refused to come?
Is she not interested in me?- dhananjay jadhav
Love Guru: Amar Deshmukh, who's to know what made her change her mind?
Because you love her doesn't mean she has to reciprocate. Since it was only coffee there was no commitment from either side for continuing it.
Maybe there was something about you that put her off. Maybe she was spotted by someone who shouldn't have.
If you are bothered enough, ask her why, but you may not like the answer.
Nand Chaudhary: Hi LG,Thanks a lot for giving me prompt reply to my earlier Query.
I was in love and had a good relation with a married woman and now she didn't want to carry this relation.
Fair enough now I also want to forget her but I am unable to as I really love her ... please help me how to overcome from this situation? Regards,
Love Guru: Nand Chaudhary, how does one get over a broken heart?
Give it time, give it a change of scenery, give it other things to focus on, and after the initial difficulty you will be amazed at how easy it is to actually forget and move on, if only we give ourselves a chance.
Trouble is, most often we want to wallow in self-pity, so we invent reasons for not letting go.
PSV SHARMA: I am 68 married and love a married woman. She loves me too. Without spoiling the present families how to continue?
Love Guru: PSV Sharma, if you ever find out how to have your cake and eat it too, do let us know.
You may have a best-seller with you, who knows!
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Advice from the Love Guru does not reflect the opinions of Rediff.com and should not be considered in the capacity of professional counselling.
(Due to circumstances beyond our control, date and time of chat may change)
