'My wife left me. How can I get her back?'

"A relationship's rules are often decided by the couple. So if you are happy in your relationship with its rules, then fine."

"As the cliche goes, time heals all wounds. Actually it doesn't, but it sure numbs the pain."

In an online chat with readers, Love Guru offers relationship advice to readers.

'My wife left me' In a weekly chat with readers every Thursday, Rediff's Love Guru addresses their relationship problems and offers solutions.

For those who missed the chat on June 4, 2015, here's the transcript!

dhanpal: is it true that it depends upon our destiny whom to marry?

Love Guru: Dhanpal, no idea. Maybe, maybe not.

I guess you can say that whoever you marry, or don't, is part of your destiny. That way you could be right.

rehan syed: one of my aunts loves me and I too love her.

I am 32 and she is 40 ..she enjoy my company but we both are married...now she want a relation with me...

Can we have it as she also want only relation not to disturb other marital things.

Love Guru: Rehan Syed, your life, your decision.

I am sure you know what you want to do. But if you ask me, I'd say don't do anything that could jeopardise your marriage or hers. It's not worth it

Dipesh Upendrakumar Shah: Sir, my wife has left from my home due to her family financial crisis and her mother's illness but she loves me little bit so kindly request you to guide me and help me to stop our divorce procedure.

Love Guru: Dipesh Upendrakumar Shah, your wife left you because of financial crisis in her home, or are you divorced?

Your post is very unclear about it.

If the divorce is under way and initiated by her, it means she is determined to go her way.

anjali: hello, I am loving one guy from last two years. boy also loves me.

we are in a relationship but without any commitment.love without a commitment is a wrong thing?

Is that must if you love a boy is that must both should marry each other only?

Love Guru: Anjali, everyone has a different set of rules, unlike in a marriage which is bound by common rules, a relationship's rules are often decided by the couple.

So if you are happy in your relationship with its rules, then fine.

bharath: I had a girl friend ..had break up after 4 years of love and relationship. Now she is married and settled.

I also got married and settled in my life.

Sometimes my mind is thinking about her and the love towards her.

I have called her few times but her response is very rude. Pls help in this regard. I want to talk to her atleast. thanks

Love Guru: Bharath, so you are insistent on ruining not only your life but also your former girlfriend's.

I don't know about you but at least she seems to be happily married, and has gotten over you.

For the sake of your own marriage and happiness, I suggest you do the same.

The past is best when it doesn't cast a shadow on the present, so let it be.

harsh bhayani: Hi I got married last year but I think she is not happy with the marriage. Kindly suggest wat should I do?

Love Guru: Harsh Bhayani, just as you took the pain to write in, why don't you take the pain to ask her why she is not happy in the marriage?

Or, are you afraid of what answer you will get? Whatever be the reason, you have no other way out but to ask her, sp please do that at the earliest.

subbu: in spite of my best effort I can't love my wife married 25 years ago. How to generate in me love for her?

Love Guru: Subbu, you are asking this question after 25 years of marriage?

How did you manage all along without loving her? I suggest you do the same thing for the next 25 years, then.

Bharat Rakshak: LG, I am in a relation, I feel very uncomfortable when I see pics of my GF with her friends from office, the thing is that I cannot tell her, she might misunderstand me, in what way should I tell her? plz help

Love Guru: Bharat Rakshak, I am not sure I understand you right.

You have a GF, and you feel what jealous? possessive? when you see her with her friends? If that's the case only you can help yourself, by coming out of your possessive behaviour.

Aprosh Aarsiwala: After break up , whats the best way to forget everything and move on?

Love Guru: Aprosh Aariwala, as the cliche goes, time heals all wounds.

Actually it doesn't, but it sure numbs the pain. Apart from time, I also recommend a change of scenery.

Get out of the city, go far away where chances of bumping into common friends are minimal, get involved in activity, keep yourself fully occupied, all this takes the mind off what you want to get over.

Mahima Das: Hi LG, there is a boy in my office , I like him a lot and I want to be in a relation with him, I have given him a lot if hints but he does not understand, he is a very reserved person, what should I do?

Love Guru: Mahima Das, among the flood of questions I get, from men who mistake a girl's simple gestures, there is this one too like what you describe.

Does this boy in your office talk to you at least, or is he too reserved even for that?

My advice, talk to him, get him to become friends with you, and when he gets comfortable, he will read your signals right.

MANOJ-KUMAR-HIRALAL TAILOR: I am love to one lady but she is looking with smile some time only showing what do now..dr. plz.given advised mr.love guru .

Love Guru: Manoj-Kumar-Hiralal Tailor, what do you want me to tell you?

This lady smiles at you sometimes, and you've decided that you are in love with her?

My advice is, what you take to be a smile may not be directed at you, she could well be smiling to herself at some thought, like we all do. So don't get all worked up over it.

abhinav kumar: It's hardly one month to my marriage and I came to know that my wife has a boyfriend in her past life and she has done sex with him several times before marriage and that's hurt me a lot am not able to eat food even every time that thing hurt me.

I want to know more about my wife and her ex boyfriend but she did not tell me anything what should I do plzzz help me am in depression....

Love Guru: Abhinav Kumar, I can understand how you feel, angry, betrayed, confused.

If she didn't tell you, how did you come to know of her past? How do you know that the person who told you is not trying to poison your mind against your wife, for whatever reason?

Sometimes people who claim to be our wellwishers prove to be the exact opposite, so please.

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Advice from the Love Guru does not reflect the opinions of Rediff.com and should not be considered in the capacity of professional counselling.

(Due to circumstances beyond our control, date and time of chat may change)