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We'd asked you, dear readers, to write a message to your 15-year-old self.
Rediff reader Heera Nawaz, 59 from Bengaluru shared her advice:
I know that you are over the moon and virtually ecstatic after returning from the Bishop Cotton Girls’ School socials where you danced with the guy of your dreams, over whom you have had a massive crush.
There is certainly nothing wrong in falling in love; especially if it's your 'first love' encounter when everything is all froth and bubble and the world seems to be a magical surreal place.
However, there are certain nuggets of advice I would like to give you to secure your emotions and rule them, without letting them rule you.
These emotions should not affect you disastrously in the years to come, as your future life pans itself out.
Never let your whimsical and lackadaisical emotions rule you.
You should be strong enough to harness your emotions well and let them work in your favour.
Indeed, 15 years is a difficult age -- you are neither a child nor an adult; you are sandwiched between the two.
You are, as they say, 'torn between two loyalties'.
You have to be careful that this doesn't affect you, your behaviour or mindset towards the opposite gender.
You are an emotionally charged adolescent with overactive hormones working in overdrive mode.
If your emotions are not harnessed aptly, they can be responsible for much heartache and heartbreak.
You do realise that in the eventuality of a fallout of a relationship that doesn't work out, the girl in question has more to lose than the guy who is probably already scouting around for No. 2!
Though there’s nothing wrong in talking, laughing and having good clean fun with the opposite gender, it is wise not to go overboard or fall madly in love at this tender age.
Chill, you have your whole adult life in front of you for that!
Know where to draw the line and acknowledge that you are important. You must realise that your feelings count and the lucky guy who is the recipient of your heart must jolly well be worth it!
If he doesn't intrinsically care for you or values your emotions, he is not worth his salt.
If the guy of your dreams -- who you care about -- does not choose you as his No 1 girlfriend or if he doesn’t invite you for the high school prom, it’s not because he’s not going for it. It’s because he has prioritised some other girl to be his partner.
Don’t break your heart over someone who doesn’t see the beauty of your innocent heart but points out blatantly to the acne on your face.
Handle your emotions adroitly, as they are delicate and fragile as glass and as beautiful as a woman’s emotions can be.
READER INVITE
Dear readers, what would you like to tell your 15-year-old self?
To love more? To let go?
To learn from your mistakes or deal with failures better?
What's the one message/advice you'd like to share with your younger self?
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